Yes, having an ostomy doesn’t mean you have to give up a fulfilling sex life. Many people with ostomies find that they can enjoy sex just as much as before. Here are some tips to help you feel more comfortable:
- Communication: Talk openly with your partner about any concerns or adjustments you might need. Understanding and support from your partner can make a big difference.
- Timing: Some people find it helpful to wait for a time when their stoma is less active. Many people find that they can predict how active their stoma will be based on factors such as timing since they last ate.
- Positioning: Experiment with different positions to find what’s most comfortable for you. You might prefer positions that don’t put pressure on the stoma.
- Protective Measures: Use a stoma cover or pouching system designed for intimacy if you have concerns about leaks or the appearance of your stoma.
- Self-Confidence: It can take time to adjust to your new body, but many people find that focusing on the positive aspects of their body and their relationship helps speed this process. There is also a large community of ostomates on social media who confidently post photos of themselves in swim attire or other clothing that shows off their ostomy.Connecting with others who feel like their normal selves again after stoma surgery can be beneficial for some.
- Consult Your Healthcare Team: If you have specific concerns or issues, your healthcare provider or a specialist in ostomy care can offer advice and solutions tailored to your needs.
Your ostomy is a part of your body, but it doesn’t have to define your ability to have a satisfying and active sex life.